What can be More Important than to Save your Marriage?

By the time you get to the point of questioning whether your marriage is salvageable or even worth the effort, you have suffered so many ups and downs. You've had confusing trials that you probably wouldn't know the best solutions to if they were staring you in the face. Its time for some major check-in questions to be asked...

1. When you got married did you imagine divorce as a real possibility?
2. Did you believe the person you wanted to marry was a good person?
3. Did you set aside natural doubts because of the love you felt?
4. Did you picture a sweet family in your dreams of the future?
5. Have you lived up to the expectations you put on your spouse?

Did you Know what you Were Getting into when you got Married?

Of the hundreds of couples I met with over the years, everyone thought they knew what they were getting into when they got married. They blamed their spouses for changing and hardly anyone (ok, no one) thought they really did anything that was contributing to the problems and pain they were suffering.

The truth is people in our country don't have a clue about what marriage really is. How is it possible to know when our parents didn't know? Movies we watch show fantasy marriage, TV shows "funny" marriage, and our educational system doesn't even go there.

You and your Spouse Had No Idea what Marriage is Supposed to Be!

I don't blame anyone for bad marriages because that would be like asking someone who grew up in the city to go out into the woods and gather what was needed for dinner; it's going to be risky! They wouldn't know which berries or mushrooms were poisonous and there are no packages of ready-to-eat anything. It's all from scratch; just like when you got married!
Three Important Steps to Take Right Now

1. Calm down and control your mind
   
   Don't allow it to convince you the end is at hand; you have all the power you need to make your marriage a success.
   
   
2. Learn what marriage is
   
   ...and how you are supposed to behave in it to make it the joyous life you wanted and still expect.
   
   
3. Don't give up
   
   You have come this far and have all the right intentions. You just need to know how to put it all together; it is easier than you can imagine.

Saving your Marriage is the Most Important Thing you can Do

When you compare saving your marriage to things like picking out a new sofa or deciding which outfit to wear or where you should go on vacation, the values are not in the same ball park. Your marriage is the most important thing in your life and is second only to your spouse in importance. There is still time and there is still so much you can do. Best of all, the CORRECT effort you make will create great results in ways you never even imagined.

Tell your spouse you don't want to give up. Tell them they are the most important person in your life and your love for each other, even though it may be buried under the debris of misunderstanding, is worth doing anything to reclaim.

Tell them, "I love you," and lets get the show back on track.